The Round-Up III: Blogs I've Loved this week:

The Problem with Raising Good Girls at RoleReboot

"Good girls grow up believing that their needs, feelings, and goals are secondary to those of others. They’re compliant, modest, non-confrontational, people-pleasing perfectionists. 

All too often they grow into good wives who carry the burden of domestic work without complaint, good employees who don’t speak up in meetings for fear of offending that loudmouth guy from sales, and good mothers who can’t attend to their own needs without feelings of guilt and self-recrimination. 

The curse of the Good Girl is a standard of behavior that is only applied to women."

The Life of a Radical Feminist Pirate at You think I just don't understand but I don't believe you

"HELLS YEAH, I said. Now in my 40s, I have finally realized the VALUE in actually talking to Women who are older than me and who, yanno, might actually KNOW things I need to know. Because I don’t want to reinvent the wheel. Because I am tired of having the same conversation over and over. Because I am angry at how fucking lazy some people are that they cannot be bothered to read what Women before them have written and take a lesson from it."

Golden Girls Marathon. I have my Period at Femonade

"there is something very wrong with men — we know this. feminism is not about fixing men, or curing them of their repulsiveness — it would be a better use of our time to try to cure tangerines of their tangerine-ness. and pointless experimenting on citrus fruit would surely smell better, and we could eat our mistakes! yum!"

There is no Feminist War on Sex Workers at Feminist Current

"In reality, abolitionists make a case against prostitution based on a combined class, race and gender analysis, as well as, of course, on the basis of defending women’s human rights. This has nothing to do with either ‘liking’ or ‘not liking’ sex. That feminists are buying into and perpetuating an anti-feminist stereotype invented by sexist men — that feminists either just need to get laid or that they hate all men/sex/fun — shows the strength of the backlash. Now we are fighting ourselves. We’re buying what the patriarchy is selling."

Facing Up to the Difficult Truth about how Porn Harms Women at The Conversation

"It would be truly wonderful to live in the world inhabited solely by proponents of porn. In this apparently post-capitalist world, where sexual freedoms abound, there is no need to worry about violence against women. In this world, pornography is simply the representation of a rainbow of sexual desires and using pornography to masturbate to orgasm constitutes a form of blissful political resistance. 

The problem is, of course, that this world doesn’t exist. The era of avant-garde porn (if it ever occurred at all) is long gone and the global pornography industry is now an economic powerhouse. While exact figures are often debated, there is a general consensus that the market for porn rivals those for popular music, Hollywood movies, and professional sports."

100 Books By Black Women that Everyone Must Read at For Harriet: celebrating the fullness of black womanhood

These are the books I've already read from the list: 

Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie 

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelous

Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl by Harriet Jacobs 

Small Island - A Novel by Andrea Levy 

Beloved by Toni Morrison 

Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction and the Meaning of Liberty by Dorothy Roberts 

Push: A Novel by Sapphire 

The Color Purple by Alice Walker

Six Horrible Lessons Football Teaches Kids at Feminism's Fantastic

"Now that the Superbowl is over, people can focus on what to do about the reality of football related head injuries and how to manage risks. If you are an adult athlete, what do you do given the possible economic consequences? If you are a parent of a boy who wants to play football, what do you do? And, football is mainly a boy's sport. Girls have the greatest risk of concussion playing soccer. Which gets me to this: While concussions are a serious and legitimate concern, I think these are the wrong questions. Here are some that I think are more important and inclusive of those above: What is it about football culture that makes "playing through the pain" a norm? Why aren't girls playing and why, when they do, is their athleticism made to seem rare and exceptional, when it is not? What makes coaches and parents continue a pee-wee game in which five little boys get concussions? What kind of people are interested in making a nine year old girl feel special, only to have her grow up to realize that there is no place for her in the world that she loves as she gets older? Yes, the physical risks to players should be taken with the utmost seriousness, but the more important questions are about what lessons kids are learning about how to define themselves and to relate to one another."

If Consent was really that hard whiny dudes would fail at every aspect of life at Rawstory

"Since they can manage to get through the day without picking their noses, masturbating in public, and being mauled by animals and/or the cops because of their stated inability to read social cues or understand when and where sexual behavior is appropriate, I am forced to conclude they’re lying when they claim they can’t interact decently when it comes to women. I propose, instead, that they force themselves on women (or at least fantasize about it) because they’re angry with women and want to punish them for daring to think we have a say in who we want to flirt/kiss/have sex with."

Norwegian Prostitution Research is Solid like Icebergs at Feminist Current

"When I noticed the potential discrepancy between years in prostitution before and after the law change I played the responsible journalist and emailed Pro Sentret. The unspeakably high mortality rate in prostitution reduces “career” longevity by a fair degree (aka women don’t last long), and the notorious influx of young foreigners from poverty-stricken countries made me suspect the pre-2007/08 average time in prostitution wouldn’t have been many years." 

Frances Andrades's suicide and the re-victimisation of rape survivors in the Witness Box at Sarah Lauren Scott: Me & My Fight Against Sexual Violence

"Frances' case has strengthened my belief that survivors should have their own lawyer to represent solely their interests. Rape Crisis Scotland have been campaigning this for a long time. The prosecutor, despite their best intentions, isn't there for the survivor. They represent the public. Experiences of survivors giving evidence, reporting figures and conviction rates all seem to show that sadly when it comes to trial a survivor's interests are not represented. They are simply a witness, they are an exhibit, they don't matter. As long as they answer all the questions thrown at them the court doesn't give a fuck what happens afterwards. Their life, their autonomy, their wellbeing doesn't matter to the court. The court doesn't care. All the court cares about is the process."

Native Women and Sex Trafficking: An Overlooked Crisis at In these Times: Liberty and Justice for All

"In “Sundance in Red,” a young girl with long black braids wears a red fur-lined dress and oversized red high heels, a pair of handcuffs dangle from one wrist. Paper doll cutouts surround the image. Another work, “7th Moon,” shows a young girl wearing her hair in traditional Hopi buns and necklace, in a garter belt, black stockings and red shoes. There are moon images around her. She stares out at the viewer. 

Says Montano, “The forced removal of native children and the trauma of relocation and abuse correlates strongly to sex trafficking. There is a socio-political link. Traffickers target women and girls who are living in vulnerable conditions due to poverty, previous abuse, or during times of political upheaval.”

Sexual Objectification Part 1: What is it at MsBlog

"Does the image show sexualized persons as interchangeable?

Interchangeability is a common advertising theme that reinforces the idea that women, like objects, are fungible. And like objects, “more is better,” a market sentiment that erases the worth of individual women. "

#INeedMasculinismBecause at FlightRisker

"Good for you! Fuck the 98 in a 100 cases of rape actually being rape, let’s focus on the estimated 2 in a 100 that are false (and almost always false in that the wrong person was arrested not that there was no rape). This is clearly the key issue here! Also don’t stop there! False accusations of rape are no more likely than false accusations of any crime! I hope you’re filled with equal rage about the 2% chance of someone falsely accusing you of cheating on your tax returns!"

Why Don't We All Love Our Bodies at Activist Pavs

"I am writing this blog about body image I am 9 years old and this is my first blog. I am writing this blog to explain what body image is and how people feel about their body. I have got some very nice people to tweet me what they like and dislike about their body and I am going to put them in this blog. There is going to be a list at the bottom of this blog of which people kindly contributed and a big thank you to everyone that contributed. My mom @planetpavs helped me with this blog so thanks as well.:)"

And, this, because it still makes me a happy bunny. I can not stop sniggering.